It often happens that many of us expect too much of ourselves and forget that things take time and we need to have patience. And instead of being patient, we try too hard to get everything right here right now. In the process we burn ourselves and get frustrated with ourselves when things don’t go the way we expect. By doing so we actually slow us down instead of speeding up the learning process.
This reminds me of one famous Grandmaster chess player (sorry I forgot his name) writing about a lesson that he learned from his Grandmother when he was a kid – “Slow is actually faster”. This particular advise stuck to my brains. I really loved this simple advice since I have an impulsive, impatient and restless nature.
I wonder I could have gone farther if I had realised it sooner. Ok. So these are my thoughts on why you need to forgive yourself more often when you are learning guitar (it actually applies to every other fields other than guitar too).
1. You get angry, frustrated, tensed (The enemies of music playing. You can’t think music with these).
2. You muscles become stiff and tight (It really really hampers your playing).
3. You are actually slowing down your natural learning process.
4. You start doubting your music playing capability (like I’m not made for music).
5. You get obsessed with negative thoughts more and more.
6. You give up.
Those are bad enough points to stop getting angry at yourself and start forgiving yourself.
All these problems actually arises from lack of understanding of the flow of learning – ‘That it takes time’. And due to over expectations and the desire to become an expert overnight. These are completely unrealistic expectations and its not going to take you anywhere other than giving you headaches. Trust me I’ve been through it. And after all the years of getting tensed while learning to play guitar, you get into the habit of playing guitar in a tensed mentality(unless you do something about it) which you will have to work out again and spend extra time and energy.
That’s the importance of forgiveness and patience to learn guitar. I’m not saying you will never get tensed at all. Its part of learning. I’m just saying you need to forgive yourself often, be patient and try to enjoy learning and guitar playing.
Your opinions are welcome.
Go to guitar lessons.